Letting Go/ Release Hoarding Behavior
It can feel daunting and yet it is so freeing
As a collective we shy away from what we deem as “tough” breakthroughs. Growth feels daunting and instead of sitting with loss many crank up their busyness levels to run away from the uncomfortable and uncertain emotions. Dissociating by running to social media or completely catastrophizing the experience. Being able to sit with and in our loss is radical rememberance that with birth inherently death is present too. They are two sides of the same coin. I personally know how upsetting, challenging and scary it can be to lose a loved one unexpectedly, to witness the end of a romantic relationship, losing a childhood home, leaving a job and the list goes on and on. Often grief bubbles to the surface and it can also be delayed by shock, denial or displaced identity. Grief can be overwhelming and yet I know I’m not the only one who has experienced shifts and changes in this way. I’m curious though what if more people began to deeply sit with the vast emotions that come to surface and arise to be acknowledged, felt and cleared. What if more folks had capacity, resources and skills to nourish themselves and normalize sitting with what is. Without a need to judge AND a understanding that getting through to the other side requires a change/transformation from what was to what is not yet known. Requires facing ourselves and unveiling our vulnerability. It is inevitable..change literally asks us to shed and release something, someone and what we thought we knew.
Hoarding reminds me of energy not in motion. Stagnant. Feels clogged. There is fear there. Fear of imparting with things and even people. So we try to hold it all. Thing is.. you can’t take it all for we aren’t meant to and figuratively and literally we can’t. Feel the pain, sorrow and sadness for the only way through is in.
Channeled: Alchemical symbol for releasing and letting go:
Amethyst and Clear Quartz
Breaking up and Releasing someone ritual:
Purification of the mind and body while making sacred space: Floral baths.
Trust your intuition with this. Use whichever herbs and florals come naturally too you. Last week I made a floral purification bath that featured: yellow and baby pink roses, rose buds, mandrake root, linden, yarrow, grapefruit juice (yes, I squeezed an actual grapefruit), Florida water, oatstraw rosemary and stinging nettle glycerite, lemon balm, Resonance Apothcary Earthing holy water and abundance oil (shop is closedown) and papaya flower essence that I made on Hawai’i “Big Island” at the beginning of this year. This bath was very helpful in clearing out thought streams from a Karmic ex, purifying and expanding my heart, and really deepening my connection with myself. Coming home renewed.
Cleanse: Allow yourself to feel your emotions to even journal about the story you have about said situation or person. Really let it all out and use the symbol above to cleanse and clear. To feel the loss and grief in shedding the sacred tears. Create new declarations and invocation for yourself while using the voice to vocalize what or who you are choosing to let go of. Release all that is in misalignment with who you are NOW.
Purge: letting go of the physical items you may be holding on to. Eg. I had clothes in storage that were given to me from my ex years ago. I threw some away and donated the rest of the items to goodwill, thrift shops and neighborhood drop off sites.
Look to nature when when you find yourself in tension with letting go or experiencing a strong inner (mind) resistance to do so. Or find that there is a pattern of physical and mental hoarding. Look to the cyclical rhythms of nature and how the flora and fauna adapt to change. You are not alone, Dear One.
If you would like to work 1-1 for grief support, implementing specialized rituals just for you in this season of illuminated transformation and/or dreaming and tunning into your next believe steps for greater norishment and ease please email illumined.alchemy@gmail to inquire. Hope to see you there! ✨